Dating younger guys benefits
Unless it's just a fun, sexy, baggage-free throw-you-over-your-desk situation where nobody gets hurt at the end. There's probably a reason no woman his age wants to date him. You'll end up alienating the friends who are dropping truth-bombs such as the one above. Sleeping with him might be a bigger emotional deal for you than you think. It's great how you guys are on the same emotional level, right!
Next thing you know, he's your closest friend as well as your boyfriend — which creates a co-dependent dynamic that's bad for any relationship. Whether or not you tell your parents about him or not, it's a lose-lose. I know hearing that is like sticking a fork in your chest and ripping your heart out. Maybe you're sure that you won't be dramatic about it, like "other girls." But that shit tends to sneak up on you. If he's married, he's not going to leave his wife for you. He might be running from a bad relationship with a woman his age. (Wrong.) He's in a different generation than you; he shouldn't be a decade behind emotionally.
Let’s look at both so you can decide whether dating an older man is appealing to you or not.
You’ve dated your share of men your age…and even younger.
Being financially stable isn’t about making 0k a year. It’s nice to date a man who can afford to pay for dinner.
Whose car doesn’t break down in front of your house… Who could afford to take a spontaneous weekend getaway with you…
Dating an older man can have some pretty great benefits.
There are also, however, some drawbacks to be aware of.
Now, I’m not saying every older man is ready to settle down again. But they’ll be more upfront about it if they’re older.
However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.
You might feel like Joan Jett when he picks you up in his Seville outside the high school in front of all your friends, but he is being mercilessly mocked by all of the women in his life for dating a 14-year-old. It's not super-sweet and romantic of him when he buys you beer and/or gets you a fake.
A young man doesn’t know what he wants, and so he plays those cat-and-mouse games we all hate.
An older man, especially one who’s already been married once, knows what he wants.