Dating a former crack addict
He has my total support in dealing with both the drugs and the underlying issues.They are part of him, part of his history, and part of the man I love. Everyone has their baggage, but it would depend on how many years sober they've been, on how big of a factor being an "addict" is in their identity, and if they had to be 100% sober all the time to avoid risk of a backslide.Multiple attempts to quit, hard drugs, no real underlying reason are all things that I'm going to look at as warnings.Basically, my #1 question in terms of former addiction is if you're gonna relapse.If it's a situation like my grandfather, who was arguably an alcoholic and then went right back to healthy drinking after his hip replacement, why the fuck not?That's part of a medical issue, and not gonna spontaneously go back to addiction--if it does, it's the treatable underlying condition.
), or something you're willing to look past if the person has been in recovery for years and seems to be doing well? Even if the person has been drug-free for years, s/he is still an addict.If their addiction was THAT bad or their recovery THAT fragile... He's so clean cut, good job, motivated, wonderful father, wonderful husband. My sister has been dating a former heroin addict for over a year and a half.it just isn't something I want to be involved in. But in his early 20s, he struggled with depression and finding himself and got mixed up with the wrong crowd. He has a therapist he can reach out to, and he really takes care of himself. They have just moved in together and are on that path to marriage. He just had a year or two when he wasn't on the right path. :) people can change if they have the tools, support, and/or commitment to do so!I couldn't be with someone who considered their past addiction to be of them because honestly and probably assholeishly, I find those people really wearing to be around.I also don't want a partner who can't/doesn't have an occasional drink.