If you cheat on someone you're dating, you don't love that person. Let me just clarify this for a second, in case you missed it the first time: YOU CANNOT CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. Full disclosure: This article is kind of personal and very preachy. I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never wanting to commit to a relationship -- but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one. I don't care if people “make mistakes.” I don't care if we're “all human.”Cheating is not a mistake you make when you truly love someone.
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"They say they wanted to have someone who would look into their eyes and make them feel sexy again." Every affair is different, and so are every woman's reasons for her involvement.
Nevertheless, Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? and Why We Love, says men are more likely to cite sexual motivations for infidelity and are less likely to fall in love with an extramarital partner.
If you are a person who has cheated on someone and still believes you love that person, you're about to have your ass handed to you. I've always valued my independence and ability to do what I want, but I also enjoy having someone to cuddle and go to dinner with.
When I bring up this subject in my social circle, it quickly dissolves into a heated debate. During my bizarre and dreadfully muddled dating history, I've been the gluttonous harpy who must have her cake and eat it too. On top of all of this, I'm pretty transparent about my habits and the insatiability that stems from my deep-seated FOMO.