Asian guy dating black women
I saw memes about how black men were taking L after L these days.And of course, there was pushback from black men as well, saying that black women were trying to control them or that black women were being bitter because they themselves wanted approval from white men.On Monday, the last day of April 2018, Issa Rae was trending on Twitter because of what she wrote about black women and Asian men in her book three years ago. Sometime late on Saturday night, Plan A’s Five Alive tweeted a passage from in which she wrote about interracial dating disparities hurting black women and Asian men in similar ways.She came to a tongue-in-cheek conclusion that black women and Asian men should therefore get together.So I think this Issa Rae passage provided some ammunition for black men to defend themselves.We’re now seeing some very raw issues come to the surface because the social landscape has changed so much in just the past year or two.The question is why did this passage suddenly spark a fiery debate now?
I wrote about it here in “Does Lena Dunham Have Yellow Fever?
For anyone familiar with racism in the social arena, the issues raised in Rae’s commentary are nothing new or even radical.
Thanks to the intermingling of technology and dating, there is irrefutable evidence that in modern American society, races and genders do not mix in harmoniously colorblind fashion.
So watching the same fight in the black community is fascinating, because in terms of relative social positioning, black women are more like Asian men.
But because black women are women, they also use similar language and tactics as Asian women in framing the whole interracial dating disparity issue as feminism and women’s progress. I’ll never forget the fact that during the darker days of this whole argument within Asian America— when we didn’t have the data, studies, or even freedom to openly talk about the obvious gendered racism infecting our supposedly diverse 21st American social scene —black women were usually the outsiders who backed up Asian men online when the denialists and apologists gaslit us and talked down to us.